I chose both of these programs because they use evidence-based approaches to relational therapy designed to improve communication, strengthen intimacy, and build connection.

The Gottman Method

The Gottman Institute is a real relationship powerhouse! They are world-renowned for conducting decades of clinical research with clients from a variety of backgrounds. The Gottman Method can be applied to monogamous couples as well as to ethically non-monogamous relationships, meaning that there is value in this approach for a majority of my clients, regardless of their relationship structure. 

Foundationally, the Gottman Method is built on Dr. John Gottman’s research on patterns of behavior in couples and how those patterns could be used to predict relational outcomes. You may have heard of the “Four Horsemen” – Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling. When we can identify and name these behaviors, we can start to replace them with healthier behaviors that facilitate growth and emotional closeness. 

The Gottman method can begin with an optional assessment that is designed to help clients examine their relationship from various angles and learn about their individual strengths and challenges. It’s a great way to take stock of where you are, where you’d like to be, and how I can help you get there! 

One thing that makes the Gottman method so powerful is that it’s designed to give you the tools you need to grow in your relationship with or without a facilitator. I can help you learn and practice the skills you need to communicate with love, care, and understanding, helping you build a toolbox that you can then reach for at any time. There is no set number of sessions recommended for the Gottman Method.

Note: While most of the research and design around the Gottman Method references couples, the Method is also applicable to ethically non-monogamous relationships. 

Prepare/Enrich

Prepare/Enrich bears some similarities to The Gottman Method, but differs on a few important points. Most notably, Prepare/Enrich is more akin to focused coaching than therapy. If there’s a specific challenge in your relationship that you’d like to address, Prepare/Enrich might be the perfect framework for you! 

Prepare/Enrich was designed by Dr. David Olsen, and it utilizes assessments to help couples evaluate their preparedness for marriage (or other major life events) and/or enrich their relationship. There are assessments specifically for pre-marriage, pre-adoption, Catholic couples, and parenting. Unlike with the Gottman Method, the assessments in Prepare/Enrich are mandatory, as they provide a concrete starting point for skill-building.

The assessments are strengths-based, which means that they’re designed to build your confidence and connection, not to give you a negative view of your relationship. After working with me to complete your assessment, we’ll begin working on complementary skill-building based on what the assessment reveals about your relationship’s needs. Most clients will want to book 6 to 8 sessions.

Unlike the Gottman Method, Prepare/Enrich is suitable for couples but cannot be adapted for non-monogamous relationships of more than two.